The countdown has begun.
My youngest daughter gets married in a year today. See, here’s the proof. I’ve got the ‘Save the Date’ type invite, so it’s real and in a year’s time, both my daughters will be married. Surely, I’m too young for that? Ah, no – wait – that’s just how old (young) I feel in my head! Anyway, I digress.
Today’s date popping up made me think, as I contemplated what we would be doing in exactly one year’s time. And I know that it will be a very different year than if I hadn’t become a Cognitive Hypnotherapist.
You see, in the past, I would now be beginning the process of pysching myself up to the fact that I feel too fat for a wedding. As Mother of the Bride we might tend to feel a need (and a want) to look our best. I’m no different – who wouldn’t?
In my previous life, I would be worried about being judged by other guests or feeling uncomfortable in my own skin. Despite this being only about ‘a day in the life’ (all credit to Lennon and McCartney) I would be putting myself under pressure.
I would steal myself to the fact that I would have to lose weight by going on a strict diet to get rid of the excess weight I would inevitably have. This is assuming I hadn’t just come off my ‘diet’ phase of yo-yo dieting, of course. Because that’s what it was like. Diet until I get to the weight I want to be. Restricting, feeling deprived and miserable in the meantime. Longing for the time it would be over. Once it was, immediately returning to my ‘normal’ way of eating that got me there in the first place. Which meant that my weight would begin creeping up bit by bit, as it inevitably would.
What madness is this?
Rinse and repeat! I was doing the same thing over and over, and expecting a different result. I should have realised I was locked into this yo-yo cycle.
So why does me being a Cognitive Hypnotherapist make a difference to how the next year is going to pan out? Well, some years ago I decided it was time to stop the yo-yo cycle and do something to change it once and for all. I used what I knew about how the mind works, to change my own thoughts, feelings and beliefs about food. I explored why I ate the way I did, and changed the meaning that I had created as a child so it no longer had the affect of making me turn to food. Turns out it was nothing to do with food as such, but that’s a story for another time. Anyhoo, that made all the difference. And despite having hypothyroism for the last couple of years, I’m able to maintain my weight and have finally broken the yo-yo cycle that was so demoralising.
So if there is anything here that resonates with you, and that you’d like to explore with the aim of making the changes you want, let’s have a chat. Anything is possible.